Books by Deon Groenewald, on Masculinity, Confidence, Anxiety Coaching and Relationships
Everything I teach in the training room, written down
All the Deon Groenewald books in one place, written for people who want something they can use, not just something to read.
I write the same way I train, direct, practical, and aimed at something you can actually use. Five books so far, covering the ground I care about most: men, confidence, anxiety coaching, and relationships.
We Were Men
The case for men, and the work of raising our sons.
Ask a boy what men are good for, and watch how long it takes him to answer. This book is written to end that silence. Drawing on history, research and years of coaching work, it argues that masculinity isn’t a problem to manage, it’s a contribution the world still runs on. Built around four words: Protect. Provide. Build. Guide.
If you’re raising a son, or you’re a man trying to work out what is still expected of you, this is the place to start.
Get it on AmazonWhy I Write
Training reaches the people in the room. Books reach everyone else.
Since 2008 I’ve trained thousands of coaches across South Africa, and the same questions keep coming up. How do I build real confidence? How do I help someone with anxiety without crossing into therapy? How do two people stay close when life gets heavy? And what does it mean to be a good man today?
The Deon Groenewald books are my answers to those questions, written down so you can come back to them whenever you need to. They’re not academic. They’re practical, written in plain language, and built around tools you can use the same day you read them.
You don’t need any background in coaching or NLP to read them. Apart from the anxiety handbook, which is written for practising coaches, every book on this page is written for anyone who wants to grow.
“A good book should change what you do tomorrow morning, not just what you think tonight.”
More Deon Groenewald Books
Unbreakable: The Confidence Revolution
Ninety pages, written to be read in an evening and used the next morning. Four pillars, self-awareness, self-acceptance, self-efficacy, self-compassion, and the tools to build confidence through action, not waiting to feel ready first. Short enough to finish, practical enough to keep on your desk.
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Integrative Anxiety Coaching Handbook
A professional manual for certified life coaches and NLP practitioners who want to specialise in anxiety coaching, evidence-based techniques, real protocols, and the boundaries between coaching and therapy. Written for coaches who want to help anxious clients safely and with confidence.
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The Couples Advantage
The skills that separate couples who thrive from couples who just survive. Communication, emotional intelligence, and the patterns that quietly make or break a relationship, backed by research and built for real use. Useful whether things are good and you want to keep them that way, or strained and you want to turn them around.
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The Village That Forgot Its Sons
Book one of The Village Series. A novel about father wounds and masculine healing, what happens when men learn to support each other’s growth instead of competing for dominance. It’s fiction, but it carries the same message as everything else I write: men heal better together.
Get it on AmazonWhere to Start
Not sure which book to pick up first? Here’s how I’d choose.
If you’re a man, or raising a boy: start with We Were Men. It’s the clearest statement of what I believe about men and boys.
If you keep waiting to feel ready before you act: Unbreakable. It’s short, and it’s built to get you moving.
If you’re a coach who wants to work with anxiety: the Integrative Anxiety Coaching Handbook. It gives you protocols, not just theory.
If your relationship needs more than good intentions: The Couples Advantage. It turns good intentions into daily habits.
If you’d rather learn through a story: The Village That Forgot Its Sons. Sometimes a story lands where advice doesn’t.
About Deon Groenewald
Deon Groenewald is an NLP trainer, life coach and keynote speaker based in South Africa. Since 2008 he has trained more than 3,000 coaches, through training accredited by the International Coaches Registrar, the Association for NLP and COMENSA.
He writes non-fiction on masculinity, confidence, anxiety coaching and relationships, drawing on what he sees every week in coaching sessions and in the training room. All the Deon Groenewald books are available on Amazon.
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